bonou2 wrote:Where the hell did i complain that no one responded to my post.
Probably your post within the context of this thread, Dan. That's how I, and perhaps many, would take it. You were getting replies, and then making comments about lack of help. Hell, even I feared an underappreciation of my (admittedly not-much-use) comments (though I note your "Thanks" on the previous page, so I can also assume I was included if I want to be less insecure

).
You’re long winded reply just backs my view up.
No, I think your "long-winded response" to his
detailed reply backs him up a fair whack. He's attempted to explain what seems to be a question regarding underhelpfulness that occured withing
this thread, and offered some valuable, experienced criticism, as you asked.
Did i say people in THIS forum did not help with my questions?
As mentioned, context is everything. Yes, in effect, between the lines, you said that to many, even though you didn't "say" it. The intent of words at all times are interpreted (in intent) in some way. Your intent did certainly seem to be along those lines. If it was not, you retract, explicate, and move on. Easy-peasy.
I was more or less directing it at other forums.
There is nothing in your post that suggests that. If you anticipated that people draw
that intent from your words, then there is little way most could have taken it without thinking that it was
this forum, this
thread first.
And sorry i don’t buy your "Sunday" family thing, my website for example has a huge jump in visits Sunday evening??
Forums, websites, mailing lists, photographers, families, lifestyles...all different things. Many folks can visit - writing/replying is a different thing. The mailing list I part-own (Airedale Terriers, for what it's worth) always goes quiet over weekends, and American holidays - people doing family things - and gets back to it on Monday, American time). Buy it - it's real.
As for the Photographer helping another photographer i have yet to have a response or positive comment, i posted weeks ago willing to help out for a photographer (bar the awesome Barry) not one reply to the post? I have been to numerous photography shops offering my help to garner experience, again nothing? Now either my stuff is Crap, (which i am quite willing to accept) or it’s a case of "protecting what you have and not expanding on it for fear of doing yourself out of business).
If you force yourself into only black, and only white, you not only see no shades of grey, but no colours either. There are, no doubt, more than the two negative reasons you offer. I, without any experience, can think of one that I've inadvertently mentioned prior - time. Giving people experience/training/learning can be extraordinarily time-consuming to do properly - that's why teaching is something they teach teachers. It may not be protecting their secrets, but protecting their valuable time (and many an "artist" must do it alone to do it). Regardless, don't narrow your vision into those two negative reasons - "there are more things in heaven and earth"...and so on.

So go it alone i will, i will get there, by the way, how many people have responded to my WB question, NONE? (As i type this)
Does this not just undermind your stated intent - that this was about
other forums? It still has only been hours, you're on your second page, and someone hasn't answered one of your questions, which were not even the initial intent of the post, that being critique of your photos. Chances are, a hell of a lot of people haven't even
seen your questions, with them appearing mid-thread rather than its leading post.
This is just my personal experience, take it or leave it.
That sounds sad. I'll leave it, because I will not make a judgement based on a sample of one, especially when my experience has been so different. I hope you've just being bearing the brunt of an unfortunate sequence of events. Perhaps patience and overt appreciation of those who
do offer help will encourage more people to see the benefits and positivity of assistance.
But it IS an undeniably selfish industry, sorry - FACT, i have had enough "on the ground" experience to know!
Unfortunately, some few professionals I know have contradicted your experience. It is unfortunate that your experiences have led you to this appearance of bitterness and generalising criticism of the entire industry. I hope you get opportunities that remove your need to remonstrate (to) all, lest it remain self-realising.
As for your "advise" seriously stick it!! It bleeds of self importance! You shoot your way I’ll shoot mine. Granted i have MUCH to learn about Wedding Photography, but be damned if i need you to bag the hell out of my photography in general. EACH to their OWN!!
Dan
PS: First and LAST time i post Wedding photos here!!
PPS: Ohh and
MODS please change the tittle thread taking the word PRO out as Gary has affirmed i obviously am not a PRO!!! Bad choice of words!
The more i read the dribble above the more pissed off i get!! Remeber "all mighty Gary" i did say it was my FISRT, and i went out to help a fellow forum member????? TO LEARN!!! Christ!!
The above is a stinking, putrid diatribe, Dan (yes, it is Dan. You're angry, and you know what Yoda said about that

You're going no-where helpful to yourself with the above, and you
know it. By your own admission, you're just letting your anger take you away from what people are saying). You can't ask for, but not accept criticism. You can disagree with it, but you can't ask for it and then tell people to "stick it". For my mind, although I'm not the greatest of photogs (as mentioned), Gary has offered a core-essential. Get the basics right; keep it simple. Get it right first time. Get the technical side right-on; think of
PS as an enhancer rather than a fixer. If you get the photography side right, post-processing may become workflow rather than just work.
This is what I've taken most from the pro's - getting the basics right. Getting technically "correct" photos enables me to work on creating instead of being bound by a Golden Mean and post-processing fix-its. I actually take the photos when I take them, not in front of a computer later, and not before from a guide book (the guide book becomes instinct, and photoshop becomes "previsualising"...when it all works, anyway, which is not often for me

). Composition becomes the same "moment" that I take the photo, rather than a search within a catalogue of "rules".
...but that's just me. My point is, there's wisdom in a pro's experience. You just got to listen to it harder.
Don't sleep on it, Dan. Go do something else, read a book, go to sleep counting sheep, and then come back to it tomorrow. Maybe you'll find that not only will people help, but they were already trying to, and you were just starting to scare 'em off a little with your instructions to some on where they might place their help.
Cheers,
MarcL